Disabilities or Disciplines

The notion of external enemies is all too common in the workplace. I once had a manager who had constant turnover in his department. He blamed turnover on the economy and the idea that other companies pay more. The truth to the problem, according to all the exit interviews gathered, was his poor management skills. (His supervisor had even jumped on the bandwagon to justify the turnover.) The myth of the management team’s downfall is a problem for the organization. Several managers have brought up great ideas for process improvements, but they seem so trivial to upper management that they are never addressed. In my opinion, if you fix the weakest links and sometimes the little nuisances, systems will improve company-wide. The company recently lost the company recruiter, he resigned. I knew from being a former recruiter that a bigger hammer was not necessary as in the “what we need here is a bigger hammer” syndrome. Better practices and time management were necessary. The interim recruiter spends two hours or less a day on recruiting, and the company has zero openings. My suggestion, practice better work disciplines and don’t pick up the disabled ideals of others.


The Five Love Languages

Years ago I read the book titled “The Five Love Languages.” It changed my life in the way I view others and myself. I used to think there was something wrong with me in that I like when people did nice things for me. (Acts of Service) I thought that shouldn’t matter. But, after reading the book I realized that our love language is deposited from childhood and can change throughout the seasons of our lives.

The five love languages are Acts of Service, Personal Touch, Quality Time, Words of Affirmation and Gifts. Everyone likes all five but you feel loved by others in one area more than the others. The key is to learn what love language those around you have. I have a coworker who loves to receive gifts so when I want to thank her I give her a gift. I have another who is always encouraging those around her so she loves words of affirmation. This review of those around you will help you in every way and should be a mandatory read for everyone in the office. Not only will it help you in your personal relationships it will also help in your work relationships as well. I encourage you to read it more than once as you will continue to learn from the book.

Pick up your copy of “The Five Love Languages” by Dr. Gary Chapman and put it to work. You will see your relationships with others improve and feel more encouraged to get to know those around you in a deeper way.

I also deeply encourage you to watch this video, you will be blessed.  The Father’s Love Letter

The infamous THEY

My employer is currently taking donations for school supplies and as I look at the donation box I think, I wish THEY would have given out supplies when I was a child. Then it strikes me that the infamous THEY have become me now. I need to give to every opportunity I can willingly and generously. To the students that receive these supplies it is a lifeline. Most of these children do not have a steady home life, parents that are addicted to drugs or parents who barely make enough money to pay rent.

We cannot expect our community to change without first examining our own hearts. Taking on the mentality that someone else will take care of it or I can’t afford it is not the thought that will change the world. Think about that the next time you spend $6 on a drink at Starbucks or a pack of cigarettes; be the change you want to see around you. We make choices every day to eat out or buy something we just had to have and forget to think about those less fortunate. I am guilty of this at times and will be examining my own heart first.

Remembering that THEY are really me will hopefully lead you and I in a new direction for future causes.



I read this story years ago (the author is unknown) and haven’t looked at a penny the same again; I was reminded of this story a few days ago after a few events happened. Please read my comments at the end of the blog and I hope this story blesses you….

You always hear the usual stories of pennies on the sidewalk being good luck, gifts from angels, etc. Here’s a twist on the story:

Several years ago, a friend of mine and her husband were invited to spend the weekend at the husband’s employer’s home.  My friend, Arlene, was nervous about the weekend. The boss was very wealthy, with a fine home on the waterway, and cars costing more than her house.

The first day and evening went well, and Arlene was delighted to have this rare glimpse into how the very wealthy live. The husband’s employer was quite generous as a host, and took them to the finest restaurants. Arlene knew she would never have the opportunity to indulge in this kind of extravagance again, so was enjoying herself immensely.

As the three of them were about to enter an exclusive restaurant that evening, the boss was walking slightly ahead of Arlene and her husband. He stopped suddenly, looking down on the pavement for a long, silent moment.

Arlene wondered if she was supposed to pass him. There was nothing on the ground except a single darkened penny that someone had dropped, and a few cigarette butts. Still silent, the man reached down and picked up the penny. He held it up and smiled, then put it in his pocket as if he had found a great treasure. How absurd! What need did this man have for a single penny? Why would he even take the time to stop and pick it up?

Throughout dinner, the entire scene nagged at her. Finally, she could stand it no longer. She casually mentioned that her daughter once had a coin collection, and asked if the penny he had found had been of some value.  A smile crept across the man’s face as he reached into his pocket for the penny and held it out for her to see. She had seen many pennies before! What was the point of this?  ‘Look at it,’ he said. ‘Read what it says.’ She read the words ‘United States of America.’  ‘No, not that; read further.’ ‘One cent?’  ‘No, keep reading.’ ‘In God we Trust?’  ‘Yes!’  ‘And?’

He explained, ‘And if I trust in God, the name of God is holy, even on a coin. Whenever I find a coin I see that inscription. It is written on every single United States coin, but we never seem to notice it! God drops a message right in front of me telling me to trust Him. Who am I to pass it by? When I see a coin, I pray, I stop to see if my trust IS in God at that moment. I pick the coin up as my response to God; that I do trust in Him. For a short time, at least, I cherish it as if it were gold. I think it is God’s way of starting a conversation with me. Lucky for me, God is patient and pennies are plentiful! ‘

When I was out shopping today, I found a penny on the sidewalk. I stopped and picked it up, and realized that I had been worrying and fretting in my mind about things I cannot change. I read the words, ‘In God We Trust,’ and had to laugh. Yes, God, I get the message.

So, this is where my story begins. Here is my ‘most recent’ penny story. I recently moved to another town and I am struggling with all the demands of selling my house and the events that have taken place recently. As I was sitting, resting in my garage after cleaning out my house I looked down, there was a penny between my feet. I had just disassembled a desk that was super heavy with the air conditioning off in my house so I was drenched in sweat. I was feeling beat down and super tired but this penny reminded me that God does care.

The same day before I left my office, I was talking to a coworker and we both saw something roll down the hallway around the corner under my closed office door. We were both surprised, giggled and wondered what rolled under the door. I explained, ‘I will check that out tomorrow because I need to go home to move a desk out of my house.’ The next morning, I walk into my office and there is a penny in the middle of my office floor. So, not only was I being reminded to trust in God as I sat in my garage but he was trying to get my attention one hour beforehand. I know some of you will say this is a coincidence but I do not believe in that. In the Hebrew language the word coincidence does not exist!

I believe in pennies from heaven because I believe God blesses those who diligently seek him and that it gives him great joy to show us his love. I encourage you to look for the little blessings and things that happen every day. God does want to have a conversation with you, maybe that will start with a penny!



Embracing Change

I am experiencing a lot of emotions this week as I have sold my house and will be moving to another city very soon. I have raised my children in this home and have planned for this day for a long time but you never fully know how you will process change until you are experiencing it for yourself. Change is inevitable but the joy is in how we process change. Instead of feeling sad that my children will both be in college this Fall I am welcoming a new season of life. A season of learning and exploring what is in store for me. I choose to embrace change and look forward to my future.

We all have the same number of minutes in an hour, the same hours in a day and the same days in a year. We make choices every day that affect our future in how we spend our time. We can’t feel sorry for those individuals who choose to throw away time every chance they get. Most good things in life take work and dedication.

This week I have talked to several individuals that have explained to me why they are barely getting by in life. (We all have struggles but we are the only ones that can change our future.) Excuse after excuse aid them however anyone can lay down and give up. Work is not a bad four- letter word, it brings change. It takes a fighter/ believer to move into the unknown. Get up and dust yourself off! Today is a new day and your chance to move to a better place than you are in right now. And who knows, you may find yourself experiencing many new and wonderful adventures.

Adventures may take you back to college, a new town or a new job. Whatever you are facing in life, believe you have the keys to make the change you need. Some changes will come in the way you expect but some will take you by surprise. However change comes, accept it, embrace it and look forward to the future.


Shake off that Poverty Mentality

Before you know it, a poverty mentality can penetrate every part of your mind and body. I am not talking about being poor. I am talking about a mentality that you do not deserve a better state of mind or life than you are currently living. I had a family member that used to say that they were sick and tired of ___ all the time. They used this phrase almost every day about something. Guess what? They were literally physically sick and tired all the time! One day I mentioned that they should quit making those confessions and kept reminding them till they stopped. You know what happened? They went on to try something new for the very first time and bought their first home and realized one day that they weren’t physically tired anymore.

We need to dream dreams and have goals that are bigger than us. I had a person say to me that if it doesn’t scare me it probably isn’t a good idea. I like this idea better than having a woe is me attitude towards life. Over 20 years ago I was working in a manufacturing facility on a production line; I was working 12 hours a day, 6 days a week. It was there I realized I wanted something else for my life so I called a staffing company and asked them to find me an entry-level receptionist position. It was there that I was promoted to my first human resources position and here I am today. I went back to college and obtained a Bachelor’s degree in HR Business Management and have the title HR Manager.

I still have goals and dreams I am pursuing but first I had to put off that poverty mentality and believe I could grow into the person I was created to become. I encourage anyone reading this that with hard work and determination you can shake off a poverty mentality and reach for the stars instead! And, don’t use age as an excuse. Young or old, you are the only one that can change your future!


Loving the Unlovely

I know I recently wrote about poor customer service but it is still present on my mind. I am having a hard time understanding why this concept is so hard for companies to teach their employees, while pondering this thought I came to the realization that it isn’t the companies it is the mindset of the individuals. In my field I have been engaging with more and more people that have an entitlement mentality – more than ever before. They want to know, “what will you do for me?” Recently while going through a fast food restaurant drive through I said thank you to a gal who closed the window then opened it again and said, “what did you say?” I said thank you again and she had a melt down and went on to tell me how stressful her day was and how tired she was. I get it! I have been a single mom for 10 years plus worked up to 3 jobs at a time. I understand tired but it doesn’t give me the excuse to treat people poorly.

I recently received an email from an applicant that thanked me for a relaxed interview. He went on to say that he doesn’t like meeting new people but felt very much at ease. I’m not tooting my own horn just saying that I do not need to add unneeded stress to others just because I can. I have witnessed people throwing tantrums because their drink of choose is out or they received the wrong menu item. In the whole scheme of life who cares! This really doesn’t matter. We all need to have more patience, be kind, and love everyone around us more. Yes, even the unlovely.